ARFWS,
Six months ago you posted about the stern tone of your husband and how you did not like it, but you also posted this:
“You know what? ITs funny but ever since writing this….I have noticed a dramatic change in my perception. Let me explain..
My kids are leibedig and know how to manipulate me. Lately I have started noticing how under control my husband seems to manage them. I have grown in the last few days to come to respect some of the way he is “Different” than my father because of this.
I told my husband shabbos, I like your way of making them control themselves.
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/sefardic-fathers-vs-ashkenazi-fathers”
I’m glad that you and your kids are out of an abusive situation, but it seems that things were OK (or at least tolerable)6 months ago, and now you got a Get. It seems that the situation really deteriorated fast. Is that what happened?