You better start rolling up your own 2 sleeves and get some work done! Over a year ago you were desperate to get married, with all the glory thast it entails (read through the posts here, especially our good, and wise friend BPT!).
Get up an hour earlier and do your own toile/bathroom, after all, it is your own dirt and your beloved husband’s! This is your first Pesach, do it with ahava, a sense of duty. How will you cope when I’YH you have children to look after, and STILL GO TO WORK, and cook, bake?!, laundry, ironing, do school rotas, school meetings, PTA, have some sort of hachnasat orchim, and be a good, warm concerned wife, phenominal mother, good daughter and exceptional daughter in law?
We raised a large family B’H bli ayin harah, kein yirbu, all having long hours of kevius of learning and chesed,(hatzolah), shul commitments, school commitments, and all our children, WORK full time – oh my gasp! yes work!, and they have beutiful, yiddishe families bli ayin harah, kein yirbu, that have the shechina reigning in their homes, always happy and jolly, all the wives work full time and bake their own challot, cook from scratch, not buying from take aways, and help the children with the homework and rotas to and from school etc. and chesed reigns in their homes big time.
When my husband read your posting he literally laughed and said B’H I have the wife that I have for the last 37 years bli ayin harah ad meah ve esrim shana with an abundance of HAGEFEN!
Instead of posting on internet websites, CR or otherwise, watching tv in Lakewood, keep your home clean and tidy all the time, not just for Pesach. Take multiple vitamins/minerals with iron and take time released B vitamins once a day and you will have koach to do all that you need to do and more, with sever panim yafot. And, remember, that when you go to your dear parents’ and your dear inlaws’ ad meah ve esrim shana, for any Yom Tov, particularly Pesach, and any Shabbos, it is your duty and kibbud av ve em to get up to help all the time, with a smile. Don’t expect older people or other siblings to do it. Set the table, help to serve, clear up after yourselves and others, wash the dishes, take out the garbage/rubbish, help to heat up the cooked foods, and help to peel vegetables, make salads, cook, and help to look after the nieces and nephews, play with them and take them out for walks and activities, all with a big SMILE and have HAKAROS HATOV!!
Don’t kvetch and put on a long face! Your parents’ and inlaws’ are not your maid! They don’t have to be your korpon Pesach! Time is so short and be grateful that you have them ad meah ve esrim shana!!! Amen!