Avram in MD-I have several of my own children and am quite familiar with childbirth.
I’ve never heard of a great delivery. Deliveries are extremely painful even with an epidural- which a midwife cannot administer. You can freely leave the hospital 4 hours after delivery to go home and rest- that is if your newborn isn’t fussy. In the hospital you can tell the nurse to feed the baby formula at night and let you sleep. The story with your wife is an exception not the norm.
SupportSurvivors- “They have mechanisms in place if something unexpected happens, and I was comfortable with them.” Do you know what the mechanism is- DIAL 911. If c”v the mother starts hemorrhaging or the baby lacks oxygen what exactly are they going to do?
“When you get pregnant, you can choose your birth plan. Til then, stay out of mine.” I am not telling you what to do. We are all trying to give the OP some advice.
And to both of you- Please respond to Health’s post- he make a very important point.