Logician, thanks. No apologies necessary, it’s okay. Yes, it isn’t good to deny the pain, if we are experiencing it, because it is there for a reason. One can use it to grow. Hence the expression “growing pains”. At the same time, if one is able to go through a seemingly troubling experience knowing that it is for their good, the pain may be much lessened, or even not exist altogether. And even then, one can use the experience to grow. Feeling pain isn’t really a choice, it’s an emotion, and usually non-controllable.So however we react, G-d wants us to use that reaction to grow. What the reaction is depends on the particular experience and on the individual’s perspective.
yitayningwut, you got it.
Sam2, agreed.