My wife was divorced, and she’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I’d be nothing without her. And she has a daughter from her first marriage, now age 21, who’s a very dear and accomplished person with lots of potential. And, to make sure she would turn out that way, we made a point of remaining on friendly, civil terms, with my wife’s former husband.
Unlike the posts above, it sounds to me like you are feeling frustrated, and even hurt. I’d just like to tell you, don’t give up. Be yourself, daven a lot, and ask Hashem to help you find the one who’s really right for you.