thats true its a hard time to go threw but there are something u can realld do.
1. as u said ur parents tell u every name for yes but for no its a problem u can tell them that due do the fact there r lots of names and only one can happen they should only tell u the name once they considder it and the other side considder it as well like this u will not be so nervous as matter of fact my parents work that way why do i have to know all the names that come and go those that get serious thay tell me only after they decide it can go why do u have to know extra.
2.i told it to my wife right before we god engadged (it was in middle a discussion so it didnt come out weired) that i didnt fake for her anything whatever i am is what i did and that made it easier for me not to be crazy about how i move and to her that she bacicly knew what i am i didnt fake what u see is what i am and there is no reason to fake i know its hard when others get engadged and not u because they fake but for yourself and for everyone i think just to stay normal is allways the best
wishing u a happy and wonderfull year and hope to hear simchas very soon