Where is all the anger coming from?
I don’t claim to know the answer to that but I do have my opinion.
We live in an entitlement society and from when our children are very little they know that they deserve “a” and that “b” is coming to them. If someone were to dare tell them something they don’t like then they have the “right” to be insulted, talk back, etc. We reward our children for every stupid thing. The latest is if you’ll be good when in the shoe store (when the kid themselves is getting new shoes) you’ll get a prize. The thing that gets to me most is the “fairness” and the exact-to-the-hairline- division of rights, goodies, drinks, or anything the kids want or even don’t want but need to have exactly what everyone else has.
I mean come on. Is this the way to prepare a kid for life? Bring them up in a bubble. Convince them that they are the best, smartest, prettiest, never-can-do wrong child in the whole wide world no matter what they do and expect them to grow up in the real world and deal with people?
Why would they have to compromise with a spouse? They are so much better than anyone – they don’t “deserve” to have to give up to make the other person happy. And anyway why deal with problems when its so easy to just drop out and find someone else – someone they really “deserve”. They don’t “deserve” to have to deal with financial problems – let the in-laws deal with it. If they can’t, find someone who does “deserve” to deal with money issues. They don’t “deserve” to have a second class job and they did they agree before they got married to dress their children in cheap clothing from department stores? No. If they would have known before….
That’s where anger comes into play. Nobody is ever taught at the proper age to deal with issues that aren’t exactly as they expect them to be.