Naisberg,
You said,
“And Al Pi Halacha, using secular court is an issur gamur normally. They MUST, al pi halacha, arbitrate their dispute in A B”D, whichever one it is. Secular court is NOT an option for a Jew.”
Thank you for telling us your beliefs on this matter.
I would hope even you would understand that forcing your belief on someone under threat of making it impossible for them to marry ever again is wrong.
Furthermore I am sure you understand that in such a system the women has no say in which B”D custody is arbitrated in, being that the Husband is the only one that could give the Get.
Even according to you I would think it should be understood that forcing people to sign legal documents is wrong, especially without explaining what the ramifications of signing the document are.