Medium Size Shadchan: Um, no. You can’t. We’re not some dystopian society where they can determine your entire future and bind you to it.
First of all, there’s no criteria.
Second of all, let’s say you have a pre-marriage standardized test or something. So if you fail you can’t marry a frum guy? You can’t have frum kids? You can’t even try to rise above?
Are you PUSHING them off the derech or are they going on their own?
And besides, as mentioned above, what about bechirah and the power to change?
I’m sorry if I sound harsh, I’m just shocked at the question.