cinderella –
I don’t believe in forcing kids to be frum.
Aha, but the Torah does. Back in the day they used to stone someone who was mechalel Shabbos. They would beat someone who didn’t want to eat matza on Pesach, until he did. Sure, we don’t do that nowadays, but not because the Torah has somehow changed. We don’t, simply because we are in galus and can’t. But in principle, it is clear that the Torah does not agree with your belief of not forcing people to be frum. This may not agree with your sensibilities, but I think most people will agree that it is the most honest reading of the Torah and halacha (without adding any “theoretical fluff”).
I will do my best to instill in them a sense of pride and appreciation for Judaism.
That is fine and good as a matter of pragmatism. Not as a matter of principle. There’s a huge difference, and you seem to be blurring the distinction.