I’m talking about letting your children make their own choices (within reason of course) and let them come to understanding the beauty of Torah on their own.
I’m not sure what you are advocating. You say to let your kids make their own choice about Judaism, but then qualify it by saying “within reason.” Well, if you only let them choose “within reason,” then what choice is there?
(Full disclosure: I think that kids always have a choice about Judaism, whether or not you want to allow it to them.)
I agree with you that a person should make the choice his own, and not simply drift along with it, but I don’t know what your suggestion is about that.