At my son’s school in Rockland, the boys are invited to a 2-hour block of the bar mitzvah affair, for the dancing. At the beginning of bar mitzvah season the school sends home a contract that the boys have to sign regarding their expected behavior. Among other things they are told to wear a jacket, to make sure to say mazel tov to parents and grandparents, and to listen quietly to speeches, even if they’re in yiddish and they do not understand it – in general, to make sure they make a kidddush Hashem. The reason for the 2-hour limit, as I understand it, is because they have discovered that the boys get too wild after that. Also, if the affair starts at 7 or 8pm, the boys are exhausted the next day(s) if they’re up until midnight.
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