I dont take myself seriously, neither should you.
However, girls DO need a yes from a boy, or they can never go on a date because boys get redt the girls first.
The typical scenario is a girl meets a shadchan. shadchan promises to set her up. Several weeks go by, no call. Why, because the shadchan gave her name to a number of boys and either they said no, or they gave no answer. Girls have to engage a number of shadchanim, to get their name spread around enough in the hopes that a boy will say, yes (the old, throw enough at the wall and something will eventually stick theory). They are in fact being held hostage, until someone says yes (heaven help them they go to a singles event or try to meet a boy any other way, they will be branded and probably dropped by the shadchanim) they have no prospect of a date, nobody to look into, nothing. they are sitting around waiting and wondering. We have long since passed the point where people are nervous, hysterical and blaming everyone and everything. Hopefully the promises of cold hard cash will keep shadchanim plugging away, and maybe even exerting a little pressure on boys and their families to give answers, for after all, unless these girls get married, they dont see a dime. Unless these girls are dating, they are not going to get married. At this point, I would go so far as to suggest using some of the money to PAY boys to go out with girls. If a 27 year old has sent $7500 (or whatever the number is) to NASI, send $50 to a boy and tell him it is for a date and give him more after each date, perhaps reserve up to 10% of all dollars put in for this purpose. If we are willing to believe money will motivate a shadchan, why not believe it will motivate a boy to consider a girl (actually, given the monetary demands shadchanim already here from boys, it is quite clear that money does in fact talk to them – for sure their mothers).