PBA. You dont know if it is the norm, do you? The situation faced by MANY girls is that they are waiting on a shadchan who is waiting on a boy. They may be waiting on any shadchanim who are waiting on many boys. As long as the boy is allowed to continue to take his sweet time and say yes to a girl, girls and their parent are sitting on pins and needles and growing ever more nervous that they dont hear from a shadchan yes, a boy wants to go out with you, unless there is a new plan in the works to set up shidduchim that I a not aware of. Held hostage is quite appropriate. This initiative will hopefully get shadchanim, in the hope of a big payday, to stay on top of boys, exert a little pressure and pull a yes more quickly out of them. Until then, the current system does keep girls hostage in a sense.
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