DY, I hear your point, but if I am not mistaken, NASI adds about a thousand dollars for each year. In essence they are making it a commodities market when a 22 year old is charged a thousand more than a 21 year old. AND, the shadchanim are saying it takes more work??? I am sorry, but I think this is a big mistake and a disgrace.
I offer the following solution.
1. If a shadchen thinks a good match is 22 or 23, the family of the boy should not embarrass itself by saying they are only interested in a 21 year old. If that is what the family wants, then the BOYS family pays that surcharge. You do not charge our 22 year old girls an extra grand over the 21 year olds. How shallow!
I think someone at NASI had an idea to respond to the age thing being top priority, but they made a big mistake in going with it.
Actually, NASI is just reacting to a problem where age, by a matter of even a year, is the most valued trait. Its like they are telling our girls they can’t move them on the open market so they have to pay a surcharge. Again, make the boys family pay the surcharge if they place top priority on age as a compatibility variable, and we will see what a game changing idea this is.