BSD,
Certainly, I didn’t mean that every yeshiva bochur has perfected his middos. I agree with your post.
Regarding the previous post, and whether there was a gender disparity issue in “di heim”, a few old-timers who may have recalled some alte meidlach does not convince me, but even if true, it’s really a side point. There are definitely more available girls today than boys, and whether or not this issue existed is irrelevant. I know some might argue that the gedolim of the past did not deal with the issue, but that’s a “kasha oif a mayseh” because our generation’s leaders have encouraged closing the gap.