A sentiment I heard expressed by older singles (male and female, the youngest ~27) as well as parents of older singles since the proposal was publicised last week, is that a large part of the problem are the shadchanim themselves. “Flattering” terms such as heartless, ruthless and brusque were used. This new program and its huge financial carrot will not stop such behavior, and will perhaps exacerbate it.
On the flip side, we keep hearing how shadchanim feel abused, overworked, under appreciated and underpaid.
With such a disconnect between shadchanim and those they are supposed to be working with, is it any wonder we have problems?