Reply To: I'm speechless

Home Forums Decaffeinated Coffee I'm speechless Reply To: I'm speechless

#846243
zush12345
Member

hi evryone,

I am sitting here reading this thread,and since i am really new at this site i find it quite interesting,how bnei torah are discussing a topic,quoting their rabbanim,chafetz chaim and so forth.

I wanted to add,that this whole thing reminds me of a story with the chazon isch.the chazon isch once wrote when confronted with the question why he usually does not argue with people even in halacha.

his answer was as follows:

“everyone that paskens has there own approach,based upon their feelings,emotions and experiences in learning and life.nothing i say will change anything.”i find this attitude highly interesting.because some of you really want to hear and be heard,maybe even change their opinion.ashreichem.some of you though have their own agendas and they will NEVER change.as a test,everyone should lean back and think about their emotions about one side(abadi)or the other side(more “mainstream” )those honest among you will feel a certain netiah.and thats the key here.if you are trully honest and objective about halacha and doing the right thing then you will suddenly be able to understand the other side and give them a certain amount of credit even though you may no agree.and yes,there is a certain amount of loshon hora in this thread,subtle underlying tones.we must make sure to stop and listen to the other person if not you are not listening or talking to someone else you are trying to win a fight,and that never works.