Gedolim…Bais Yaakovs…Sems…..
You are right. No help wil come from these quarters. Their job is to push one ideal: Torah above all else. Their job is to make you aspire to reach for the sky.
Who I was talking to was the PARENTS. (and indirectly, the girls themselves).
Our job is to meld Torah with reality. I could quote a dozen meforshim that support my theory. So could 99% of the CR. Torah that is not sustainable is not what we are all about.
Yehadus / hashkafa is all for being a baal achroi. You find it in gemmorah, you find it in chumash.
Its the “media hype” that has made work and accountability something to be ashamed of.
As far as “yeshivish becoming MO” that does not fly with me, for 2 reasons:
# 1 – it implies that the MO are somehow “less” than us.
Not so. They are just following a different mehallech. Much like the shtramel / #70s crowd. Not better; just different.
# 2 – it implies that, to enter the workforce, you are by default “giving up something”. Again, not so. True, you need to be careful in the workforce, but by the same token, our boys need to be careful when they fly off for a year in EY. If you can trust them, you can trust them. As long as we are dilligent, and they know for whom they are truly working for and what they are working towards, we can build a true Ben Torah.