Interesting to hear that you have a few friends….. data shows that in the very yeshivish communites the situation is bad but not as bad as in other communites- go figure…
Snjn: Glad to see you’ve joined the disuccions after four years. Yes it’s been checked out. It’s the reason for the nasi project. It wasn’t started on a whim of some bored people, nor did 70 R”Y sign a letter acknowldging the truism of the age gap concept simply becasue AZ in the YWCR sais so.
Do the rich pretty girls get more attention- certainly! That’s true in all aread of life from kindergarten to 120. Rich connected, popular etc get first dibs. It’s part of being a member of the human race, deal with it. (for the record i am neither rich nor pretty).
Is that the reason why as a whole, girls have a harder time than guys
no no no
never never never
uh uh uh
if all girls where rich and pretty we would have just as many single girls as we have today.
remember my example of musical chairs…
girls are the participants
guys are the chairs.
Rich/pretty they just know how to hang closer to the chairs.
So long as there aren’t enough chairs for the participants it won’t make a dent.
This is the reaso why you won’t see a nasi project raising money so that girls families should have money. If they thought it would make a differenct they would do it.
But they know that it won’t- so they don’t.
Telling everyone we need go the age gap/break the stigma against slightly older girls has been exremely effective and iy”h will continue to be effective.
B”H much progress has been made and there is actually hope that this terrible situation will be solved (going forward).
we are closer to the end than the beginging.