snjn:
In your theory that the boys stick around for the next year. Can you imaginge the competition of the boys for those girs. becuae every year there are new boys as well. the guys who stick around etc. would face fierce competiton from al the new boys.
so how is it that after three years of dating the boys are by and large married and many many girls stay single
Please explain that phenomana (unless you don’t believe it to be true).
Snjn: your suggestion about boys looking to be supported, or in other words girls looking for those kinds of boys being at a bigger disadvantage actaully isn’t suppported by the data on the ground. According to that theory, the more yeshivish the commuinity is the worse the problem should be- correct?
well guess what, It’s not true. mMnch on that a bit..
Rc: i said you are incorrect as to the cause. what you descrie is the effect. When after a few years the boys are married and girls (who strated dating at that same time) are still around then we have the crisis rearing it’s head in real time.
I am simply foucsing on the cause becasue understanding that is the key to solving the problem.
or in other words, why didn’t all or almost all the girls get married at 19. Why are some many girls turning 22 and still not married. (and do you really think that 21 year old girls will only marry a 23 year old but not a 24 year old??)
more so, I’d hate to be a 24 or 25 year old guy. I mean the girls ONLY want 23 year olds. My gosh, poor 24/25 year old guy, he can’t buy a date (according to your theory.).
Rc: i apologize, but as i wrote before, is accurate, you are incorrect. It’s true that a 23 year old can date a 19/20/21/22/23 etc, but that’s NOT the cause that’s simply a result.
to solve a problem, you need to get at the cause, without that it’s hopeless.