Hi moreDow.
You have a right to want what you want and I hope things go in the way you like.
I dont know you, but since you say you have been around the block, I guess you have not gone further. So, you have no other option because a girl who has been around the block also does not like to go further so how can you two meet, unless you two live on the same street?
All seriousness aside, if those days are just a memory and you are no longer holding to hanging out like that, I have heard enough shiurim to know it is as if you hit the “delete” button on a computer, and you dont even have to think about those days or talk about them, because Hashem doesnt.
On a final note, sometimes learning a lesson the hard way is a very strong character builder, so please dont assume a girl who you feel may have also been around the block (if that is true, and to what degree) may not also want to walk the straight and narrow now.
Hatzlacha!