Always: Look at what you wrote:
“I must reiterate HE IS NOT VIOLENT TOWARDS ME or even walls or objects (i have done that) he just lost his temper at our child”
He JUST lost his temper at your child??? This wasn’t the first time.(even ONE time is too many) You said he did it to another child 7 years ago. He also reacted very badly when your daughter was eating candy Friday night. I’m sure there are more cases you didn’t tell us about.
I know you love your children very much so please please think of them! Of course you should be thinking of yourself as well. Please let us know what happened tonight when your husband came home!!! We are worried about you. Don’t stop posting here. All the best to you!!!!