ARWSF: a huge Yasher Koach to you for taking the first step towards healing your family. I hope that you and your husband have the strength to follow thru with the professionals you have contacted.
reading through the posts here, i would caution you that now that you HAVE contacted professionals, you shouldn’t necessarily internalize the messages being said here. i understand many are talking based on personal experience, but so am i. those who are saying “an abuser will abuse again…” is only in a case where you don’t seek help. also, there IS a difference btwn an abusive spouse and an abusive action taken by an angry spouse. as long as you are seeking help and FOLLOWING THROUGH with therapy (individual, couples, family) etc, your marriage and your family have hope.
daven to Hashem for the strength you will need.