always runs with scissors fast-
Forgive me for saying this, but you fit the typical profile of an abuse victim.
You are making excuses for him – “He is really a very sweet kind person when he is his usual self… I also feel bad to “take action” against him because he has had such a hard life, and needs my help as a wife, and needs a base as a home and his family/kids. He could /chas v’shalom have a heart attack if I punish him with a break up. It would very much stress him out.” – and thinking that things can be worked out.
I asked “Mrs. Try” to read this thread to see if she agreed with me.
Her response: “She needs to get out before she or one of the kids ends up dead (c’v)”.
We’ve seen abused wives, and this advice is based on friends and family members who went thru this.
At the very minimum, please follow the advice given by several others here and call the numbers “poppa_bar_aba” gave – don’t delay and don’t make excuses. Your kids need your protection.