Reply To: HaKaras HaTov -Vital for Good Marriage?

Upon thinking this over more, I came up upon a stumbling block, since it is hard to determine how a true Makir Tov would behave on a higher level (than non-Makirei Tov), in the following scenarios:

I claim, I can only marry a Makir Tov. But what should my (future wife do, in order to be a Makir Tov i.e. how can she rise above the behavior of non-Makirei Tov). Should I expect that every time I change the baby’s diaper, set the table or change a light bulb that she should tell me what a Tzaddik I am or throw me tiker-tape parade (rhetorical question)? So what is realitic to expect from a true Makir Tov wife for daily nice things I do for her or for the household? Obviously if I will be waiting for my tiker-tape parade, I will be bitterly dissapointed. So what behavior is exhbited by a true Makir Tov that can make the marriage so much better, than sets her aside from a woman who believes that she is entitled to nice things from her husband all the time. If I am not making sense, just please tell me in your own words, how a Makir Tov spouse makes all the daily chores and hurdles much more pleasant to get through (simiar to what “Think first” wrote above: Its all about being appreciated, where there appreciation things can be tough financially or otherwise and the marriage will continue to blossom, where there’s no appreciation people feel lonely and forgotten.”. Lastly, what must I do for my spouse to give her the Chizuk to remain a Makir Tov through all the difficulties of taking care of a family?