Reply To: Increase in OTD Children… are made to feel like second-class citizens,

One more thing to add to my list – when people around them concentrate more or what they look like on the outside than what they feel like on the inside. It is more important to be a frum yid on the inside than make a fuss over the livush and appearance on the outside. You can change a person from the outside in but not from the inside out. That is a biggy. As one young woman told me “After my mother died when I was 11, they were pointing to my top button that was open, but my heart was but three inches away and it was shattered into a million pieces but they didn’t speak about that. Not one of them asked about my broken heart and how I was doing, they were only concerned about my open top button.”