kido , what do you mean when you say ” i see married pp basically living in oblivion!” oblivion to what , to whom,
i know a boy who got married and during sheva brachos week went with his Kallah to his parents house to look at some of the wedding gifts that were there. when he came in his mother reported ,”it was like she, the mother had become invisible. He could only see his Kallah.” the mom happily reports that after many years of marriage they are still blissfully happy, but she does get to see him, and his lovely wife and he sees her on a regular basis. Bli ayin hara , Halevai for all of klal yisrael.