No it isn’t at all. It is like shidduchim. The buyers give the brothers a list of “Must Haves” and the brothers show them a house exactly with everything on the list. The buyers also gave the brothers their budget in which they want the brothers to find them everything on the list. So the brothers have give them a reality check and show them the home they want in the neighborhood they want that has everything on their list. Then they ask them “how much do you think this home costs?” That is the reality check. When they find out, they are shocked and say “We can’t afford this!” No kidding! On the other hand, the brothers take them to a run down house they can afford either in that neighborhood or near it and show them how they can have everything or nearly everything on their list in that home with some imagination and renovation. You can take anything with potential and bring out its potential when you understand that you have to be real and understand that you can’t have everything custom made your own desires, there are compromises along the way.
This is a good lesson for shiduchim. When someone gives a shadchan a list of requirements sometimes a shadchan has to give them a reality check “have you looked in a mirror lately?” “what do you have to offer such a prospect?”. Seriously, lets say the shadchan can actually match everything on that list, what does that person have to offer in order to get a yes from that perfect person with all the requirements?
This is a good lesson for life in general. Just because a person has a wish list or a want list does NOT mean that Hashem has “agreed” that they should get it and they might have to do a reality check. Stop looking at what you neighbor or family member has, stop looking at what you think you should have or you think you want and maybe try to understand what you really can afford or what Hashem really wants you to have right now.