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I think that this is something that should be happening between frum couples, and you are correct to desire it. The only difference is that we don’t do so publicly. You should speak to your rebbetzin about this.
For example, the kior was built out of mirrors that the women in mitzraim used to beautify themselves for their husbands. Hashem told Moshe to accept the mirrors and build the kior out of this. This was appropriate since the kior brought sholom bayis, by showing when a sotah was not guilty. See rashi shemos 38:8.