I think the main lesson to learn is that if you go to a electrician he’ll tell you you need fresh wiring, a contractor will blaim the rotting beams, your Mashgiach will blaim your Shmiras Hasdorim, an eye doctor will find your stomach ache in your retina, and a podiatrist can prescribe new shoes for you appendicides. A Psychiatrist prescribes medicine and a therapist gives therapy. Seldom will someone tell you that the problem lies in someone else’s field. Not nessecarily because of haughtiness. They just look within their own specrum to find the solution.
To Health and Aries: It is unfair to try to shift blaim on a patient who relied on a doctor. Since you are in the field you know what to look out for and what a doctor will or won’t tell you. But it is very narrow to expect everyone else to have known what your experience taught you.
It sounds like when you visit a government building for the first time and the employees laugh at you for not knowing your way around. Believe me, it is a common reaction. I often see this in any business that a new customer gets mocked for not having worked at the place for ten years. Now that I point it out, please take heed and respond accordingly and thoughtfully to someone who feels like a victim.
Besides, when someone is hurt or suffering, that is not the time for rebuke, even if it would be deserved.