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I don’t understand. You are saying the choice is Gedolim or Parents. OK. But in your previous post it seemed to me as if you were saying it was teacher vs parents with rav. Is the teacher following gedolim and the parents/rav not?
I’m used to a small town community where the teachers and parents work together very closely (and are often the same people). That could be why I’m shocked by the comment.
My experience from Sem reports (which is what I base my comments on, not my children’s teachers, who I have good things to say (and don’t try to pasken)) is that they don’t really care about Halacha. They have an agenda to make everyone agree to there own personal feelings (or their husbands’) on what the halacha should be, and CLAIM that is what the Gedolim want. The last thing the teachers want want is for a girl to verify or ask questions to an actual Rov, Posek or Gadol.
Both the Shulchan Aruch and the Rambam (which I understand why the mods don’t want to post it, it is Issurei Biyah 21:7) hold there is no problem whatsoever. For someone to make up a machlokes without showing any sources, when it is “Offen in Shulchan Aruch” that it is Muttar, is highly suspicious.
I’ve just heard too many first hand stories of “If you don’t have two sinks, you’re eating traife” and “Girls are not allowed to talk on the street” from girls schools & Sems. They do not have a Chezkas Kashrus in my book.