“A boy has no pressure”
So create some. Dale Carnegie once said, people are motivated by one of two things, fear or money. It seems apparent that that there is no fear of not getting the names of girls, however, if you made boys put money up front, and deduct a few dollars every time they delay, drag along and waste your (and everyone else’s) time it might put SOME pressure on them to stop comparing the 47 options on their heilige list and make a decision. Seems to me that it is reasonable, dont shadchanim feel the need to be compensated for their time? Why is the time only on the clock once the girls family is in the picture?