“I always feel so hurt & stepped on.”
You are correct that people should at least say “thank you,” but not everyone does.
-Try to do things that make you feel good about it even if you don’t get back the appreciation. If you are doing the deed just to get the appreciation, you may be disappointed.
-Tell them it seems as if they don’t like the job you’ve done for them and how would they have done it differently.
-Tell them calmly that you feel unappreciated when you do the good deeds without any positive feedback.
-If you’re asked to do another favor, let them know up front that you’d really like to, but it’s important for you to feel acknowledged and not taken for granted.
-If the recipient(s) not only do not acknowledge your efforts but actually give you grief, then you need to reevaluate if perhaps your energies are better used elsewhere.
I’ve done this myself right here in the cr and only post a fraction of what I used to.