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I once heard from a Talmid of Rav Pam Z”L in his name, that when you’re lying in bed and you hear the faucet drip it drives you nuts. On the other hand, if it is raining outside it is a soothing sound, or at least not bothersome. The difference, he explained, is that you cannot do anything about the rain but the sink is someone’s fault.

If you come to terms with the fact that certain things, whether a preference or even a total Meshugaas, won’t go away, you’ll look at it differently. The example here is that if your wife will not take certain jobs, don’t hate her for it. Just view it as a given, and that nothing can be done about it. When making plans take the Meshugaasen into consideration.

When an issue comes up (into your mind), try to think of it in these terms. Try, if applicable, to say to yourself, ‘who said it has to change?’ It’s not a sink, it’s rain. That’s the way it is.