Dr Pepper – I hear you. But the reality, whether we like it or not, is that shadchanim will try harder if they have a chance of being compensated. They are volunteers, not licensed professionals. And they do with their time whatever they want. they can even decide not to red shidduchim at all, and there is nothing you can do about that. You will just have one less shadchan. Give them the hakoras hatov they so deserve (instead of the abuse they ususaly get instead).
That the Rabbonim should create a shidduchim organization is an entirely different story, not being discussed now.
And I will reiterate my other point that I made. I will add a story so that ypou understand. The mashgiach in Mir, Rav Yeruchem ZT”L, charged a penny to enter to hear his shmuessen. A student that did not have, got the penny from him to use. He said, if you pay for something it has more “chashivus – you pay attention”. Same here – the singles and their parents will pay more attention to these shadchanim.
I don’t like the idea either, but it IS reality, and the way to go.
As for poor girls, life is unfair. Sorry but that too is reality. They will get theirs thru prayer and the RBS”O.