Cshapiro- as a Mother I was getting worried until I read your last post, thank goodness it is much better than it could and best of all you fiance sounds a good natured sweet young man, the most important thing of all. Sorry about the fuss pre-wedding, as simchas approach friends as well as family can get rather busy and unwittingly change the mood to one of tension and stress. STOP and THINK you are blessed with a fine fiance and some rather silly but well meaning friends. Step back from the friends, be polite, sure stay close to those you trust and care for but as you approach your wedding think of the bigger picture. You and your future husband together, if you think of your friend as someone to tolerate and indulge, rather than a close confidante it will help you, she means well but she is not you and you do not need to waste time thinking about her. the shower and gifts are all lovely, but sorry to say unimportant be they
$5 or % $500, you are getting married and are a lucky lovely girl. It is the happiest time of your life an it is just beginning, honestly to find a good man is everything. I have lots of daughters, and often girlfriends have tried to do so much to make their engagements and weddings extra special, all of which has been unnecessary. Easier said than done, but show your fiance he is your main focus in life, your friend will back off because she has to. Sure you can show her your appreciation for he shower etc, but this is small fry, you are about to build a Jewish home, treat her gently but remember this is your time and your future, a lot of other things to think of. Wishing you Mazeltov