Cinder;
When I was dating, I wanted a slim, nice looking girl.
I was slim, (still am) dressed sharp, (still do) and I haven’t gotten any complaints about my appearance B”H.
Many guys I know are like that. They are handsome, dress well,
don’t smoke, and want a similar partner similar to themselves.
I don’t see the big avleh. It so happens, not to C”V knock anyone,
but girls tend to be more on the heavy side than boys.
Maybe it’s from helping their mother bake cakes after school,
or from not playing basketball everyday, or lacking a physical outlet or introduction to one, or having it accepted as Tzniusdik.
Be that as it may, many slim guys in their 20’s – 30’s struggle with an abundance of fuller girls on the market as opposed to slimmer ones.
Today with the younger generation things are different than say 20 years ago, and there seems to be more activities being done by girls as well as a bigger awareness about health and physique.
So I guess today’s young teenagers when they hit the market wont have to worry about “is she skinny?” although I shudder thinking of what the new problem will be. As today most younger teens are skinny, dress very much within the boundaries of style,some are very stylish indeed, even from more chasiddishe circles.
So maybe i should be positive and assume they won’t have to worry
about gashmius, only of how good a girl she is.
So the shidduch crises should stop with the younger generation BH!
Though I secretly pray they wont pull out a new measuring stick entirely just to scour the market like one looks for an esrog.
That may be another reason why so many guys are looking for younger girls, as they tend to not be so nebby, and not dress so shlumpy, no offense to the older girls, I just wonder why they wouldn’t get with the program for their own sake.
As an amateur shaddchan I noticed this difference between younger and older girls.
I suggest to these older girls who aren’t particularly makpid on dressing with it, to please ask a younger sibling to help you.
You don’t have to compromise on Tznius, but you have to try to dress like your from this current time and are not from Amish country.
Please don’t take offense, this is only for your benefit.
The guys are a little too much aware 🙁 of what is with it and what is nebby, maybe its their mothers, or sisters fault, maybe just technology and yeridas hadoros, but you have to acknowledge
this and take the necessary steps.
Again, no compromise on Tznius, but some of you mistakenly equate dressing up to date with being Un-tzanua. That is Not the case.