“take out ‘vadai’ and put in ‘lichora mistama'”
I’m ok with “vadai”, as I’m inclined to believe its not her tzidkus that helped you made a decision, but the externals she brings to the table.
That said, I’d ask her out. If she can work in a mixed envoirnment, she should be cool with being asked directly.
If you want to hedge your bets, ask her who you can get in touch with to reccomend a shidduch to. That way, if she balks, you don’t spoil your chance. And if she bites, you can make your case.
But something tells me from your very yeshivsh choice of expressions, you are not really taking this seriously, or at least, don’t think your family will. “lichoira, mistameh” is not the kind of talk that a boy who works in a mixed crowd would normally use.
My guess: You’re as black hat as they come, and are having a pipe dream.
Let it go.