Tums
Why do you assume those I talk to in real life are offering assistance? I have been “assisted” by my so called “best friend” to remain in my marriage despite the fact that my husband has been physically, verbally, emotionally abusive, controlling and doesn’t keep basic mitzvos like tefillin etc. I have no intention of basing my life decisions on the responses of those on the Internet, however, the support and outraged responses I’ve received from others does help to strengthen my back bone to re-assess my choice to remain given my circumstances. The advice that I got from others on this forum was that based on what I’ve told, it would be prudent to speak with someone from shalom task force (something I never thought of nor has anyone in my circles mentioned to me). Frankly, I don’t think that’s bad advice, nor is it a decision to stay or go.