I really feel for you on this… Coming from a girls perspective, AYC might just be right! She’s too immature to see past attraction.. with married guys she doesn’t have a problem cause their taken already anyway… Really don’t take don’t take it to heart… She doesn’t mean to hurt you, she likes you,maybe even loves you… just halachically she can’t express that, so she avoids you as a geder, to avoid coming accross as a flirt. technically according to halacha she can possibly marry you.. -I’m sure someone mentioned that already.. You mentioned in another thread that it has been going on for 6 years… well assuming she just entered the market now,she must have became a teenager then..So that practically sums everything up..
maybe once you are both taken, the ice will melt itself down… prehaps you two are a match… who knows…lol:)