Ok, serious answer now.
I really feel that, for the most part (meaning 98% of the time) none of the steady posters (and I would consider myself one of those) are mean or insulting.
Sarcastic, wise-cracky in a funny way? Yes, that’s just the way I am.
Sarcastic, in a sneering, demeaning way, I don’t see any of us being that way. And if we sometimes come off too strong, we get “reminded” by the Mods or members to tone it down.
As far as taking a VERY strong stand on one issue or another, speaking for myself, if the topic is one that really has no place in a “yeshiva” based forum, then I see no reason to pull any punches. Since you picked the subject of music, I’ll go with that one.
Were the question, “is Mozart’s music good or bad?” that should generate a civil discussion, with each person advancing his or her opinion.
Were the question,”is Lady Gaga’s music good or bad?” that should generate a barrage of nasty, biting posts.
So we play nice, but we play hardball too. Depends what, who and when.