Reply To: Shidduch Advice- First appearances

Thanks for the advice about a walk or drive as a relaxing activity on a date, Tweet.

I know it is natural and necessary for a couple on a date to look at each other, of course! I just noticed that this particular girl had been introduced with her looks emphasised by the shadchan who of course meant it nicely but some quieter guys may have been put off and guys who are more concerned about image certainly more interested.

As it happens, the girl herself is not so aware of her looks and on dates I guess she just wants to relax and get to know her date without them having preconceptions about her. Recent advice given was for her to dress nicely but not made up or very fashionable, so although her good looks can still be seen she does not give the impression of being ” too much of a pretty face” . For a young intelligent frum girl being commented for her looks is not an easy matter, questions of tznius and unwanted attention crop up alot. This is hard if the girl is a serious intelligent young woman and some potential shidduchim get scared off!