Reply To: Davening for ….. and is it good?

Firstly, thanks for taking time to reply!

I think I will clarify a bit deeper. (I tend to think myself in a muddle but thats not bad…right?)

First, can one Daven for something in particular if he has the right intentions and feels that it will be good for him? For example: to help himself improve his Middos, become spritually closer to Hashem, to be able to give more money to Tzeddaka, be able to give good advice, get a certain job he feels would be able to help a lot of people, marry a person who has great Midos and Yirat Hashem-and then specify particulars-and then say “if its good for me, please grant it”

Also, I must admit I am curious-what does “if its good for you” mean? Isnt anything that Hashem does good? And can anything be good if used or happens in the correct way? (Can Hashem change things for xyz to end up being good, even if it wasnt originally the case)

How can one know what to Daven for or what is truly good?

Which brings me to my next question-why cant someone Daven for something in specifics (shidduch, job, etc.) if he only has good intentions in mind for mentioning it.

Wow. That was a mouthful. Thanks in advance!

And extra points to Yossi Z. for his original points offline 🙂