Reply To: can i date a girl without Shadchan????????/

Apushatayid, in my country the police don’t convict people who are asking women for marriage in a online chat room (if they only ask the question once). Anyway I never asked women to marry me, I just asked them to date me (I was talking theoretically).

Cherrybim, the reason Rabbaim make this Geder nowadays is probably from the Gemara in Sanhedrin that says ‘immorality is addictive’ (not in that exact Loshon), and as there is more color images in the media, the Hargalah to the aveiro (accustoming of the sin)is greater, and therefore if people nowadays just ask women to go on a date with them, both parties are more likely to sin.

So in conclusion the Geder of using Shadchanim is said by (in my eyes) clever Rabbanim.