WIY; Thanks for saving me the trouble.
There’s a famous question as to why do Chazal say Gadol Hametzuveh V’oseh Mi’mi Sheino Metzuvah V’oseh! It would seems kind of contrary to logic.
There are many answers, one of which Tosafos brings that one who is not commanded, doesn’t have a strong Yetzer Horah on that thing.
That is why it is not such a big deal to do something your weren’t commanded as opposed to someone who was commanded, do this, or don’t do that.
It is interesting to note that a big problem today with Ehrliche girls on the market who cannot or do not want to support, is that although they want a working guy, most of the working guys they
date don’t meet up to their Hashkafa and Ruchnius’dige needs.
These girls complain about this, or sometimes R”L settle for a guy that is less frum than themselves.
All you Big Lamdanim here who are bashing good guys,
(probably so proud of yourselves that you work and still go to a shiur sometimes)
why is it can you tell me that most working boys aren’t so shtark in their haskafah, learning seders (if any) or what they like to do or places they frequent in their free time.
Why is it that those serious B’nei Torah in yeshiva are still shtark, (maybe not in your eyes, for in your eyes shtark is measured in dollar $IGN$)
as opposed to most of the working boys?
What makes a girl good? That she has a job & doesn’t hang out?!!
Whew! That’s tough these days. Nobody likes money. Especially girls, who absolutely abhor shopping, looking nice, dressing up.
Most girls DO NOT get to go to a good school like Bais Yaakov and get a good education about being aidel & Tzanua like all the other girls did hundreds of years ago.
It’s not like they get out of school earlier than boys and are bored and need to get a job. It isn’t even like a style or like there’s any peer pressure to get an education or go to work.
We all know that most girls don’t get a job or education these days. All they do is sit home and bake cookies, and have meetings with other girls discussing recipes and how much better they are than boys today.
Although this is a serious post, there is much sarcasm in it, if you missed it, it may be confusing for you, I apologize.