Dear hello99,
I will not quote major poskim that disagree with you, I have not received their permission to publicize their (lenient) views. I know what happens behind closed doors and apparently you also make the same claim. So we disagree on two levels, one on what the poskim say, and two, what actually happens. I can leave it at that, we both know that our disagreement doesn’t change the mitzius or the halachah.