It’s all a charade, and she knows it. Deep down, she’s getting the approval from them that she so craves but probably disapproves of and maybe even despises herself for telling lies. The more lies she tells the more she has to continue to tell to build upon those lies. It’s a fragile tower in danger of falling and exposing /destroying her at any moment. The security she finds from their approval is lost to the insecurity she feels of being exposed. When a family fails to give the love and nurturing a person needs they have a choice to continue to pursue recognition and approval from those reluctant to give it or to try to find it elsewhere (from within, a secure and reliable source, or from without, not necessarily reliable or dependable). She needs therapy to face her insecurity, which she so fears and has been avoiding, and to develop the capacity to love herself for herself in the absence of accomplishments (something, most likely, that she has never been taught).
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