Reply To: If you really want to do something and are told no

Minyan gal: That’s why I said to ask her Rav first. There are many cases where a Rabbi will tell the Sho’eil to ask someone else instead. Many times it’s because they know that there are good reasons to be Meikil but don’t want to be Meikil themselves. So I advised to ask her Rav, who can decide if this is an important enough issue to her (from the OP it seems like a big deal to her) and a Tznius-enough sport to be Meikil in this fashion.