Reply To: reason for saying no

You can give a real reason without insulting or bad mouthing the other party. The way to do so is to focus on yourself and not the other person by using an I statement. For example, in place of “He is too intense”, you can say “I am looking for someone a bit more easy going”. Instead of saying “She was too quiet”, say “I am looking for someone who is more talkative”. Phrasing it this way makes it clear that the other person does not have a problem and would make a fine shidduch for another person, they are simply not the one for you.